Is it against the bible to have oral before marriage?

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There is no place in the Bible that suggests that oral sex is a sin within marriage. In fact, The Song of Solomon (or Song of Songs) from the Bible has what many biblical scholars agree are poetic references to oral sex. That book is so exciting that it was illegal to read it in public in many countries for centuries. If oral sex is something that both husband and wife want and agree to do, then it is totally fine within their marital sex life.

There is no biblical argument for calling oral sex a sin in the context of marriage. However, outside of marriage, oral sex is still considered sexual immorality because it is a sexual act with someone other than your spouse. Outside of marriage, oral sex is considered sin, premarital sex, and sexual immorality because it is a sexual act with someone other than your spouse. Within the context of marriage, if oral sex is something that both husband and wife want and agree to do, then it is totally fine within their marital sex life.

Since the Bible talks about honoring God with our bodies and fleeing sexual immorality, oral sex would not be honoring God. In the previous Bible verses on sex, God makes it clear that he designed and created sex for a husband and wife to enjoy in marriage. Therefore, I maintain that oral sex (as well as manual sex, anal sex, telephone sex, auditory sex, sexting, and any other sexual act) is still included in porneia if it doesn't involve a husband and wife, and only them. Some believe that oral sex (cunnilingus when performed on women and fellatio when performed on men) is an ungodly sexual perversion and is never okay in any context.

Some are of the opinion that oral sex does not count as premarital sex because it is not a real sexual relationship. We also see in the Bible verses below that the purpose of sex in marriage is to create intimacy and bring husband and wife together for life. We also see in the Bible that God created sex for enjoyment in marriage; it is a gift and God wanted sex to be a beautiful and passionate experience between a husband and wife.

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Reginald Thomson

Reverend Thomson is a pastor and Bible scholar with over 10 years of experience in ministry and biblical studies. He holds a Bachelor of Arts degree in Religious Studies, a Master of Divinity degree. As a Bible scholar, Rev Thomson has published numerous articles and books on various topics in biblical studies, including hermeneutics, exegesis, and biblical theology. He is widely respected for his expertise in the original languages of the Bible, and he is frequently invited to speak at conferences and seminars on biblical scholarship. He loves working with his church youth group. He is a frequent guest on the Scripture for Todaypodcast.